Details of a mending heart

There is no owner’s manual or books for dummies about a broken heart. I can only share with you how I am mending mine. They say that in life you will break a heart and even get your heart broken; but no one ever tells you when, where, how or even why. I’ve found that it doesn't matter. Nor does it matter how guarded you think you have your heart from love; when it comes and knocks your guard down you have officially become open territory to heartbreak and when that feeling arrives, it often leaves a messy stain.

While trying to mend my heart, I had to come to terms with a few things. Here’s what I’ve learned: never lie to yourself.  It happened and the only way to get over a broken heart is to accept it. It may take a couple days, weeks, or even months to get your mind re-programmed and pre-programmed for battle, but do not walk around wounded.  Analyze what went wrong and put in your mind that you learned or are still learning.  There is something incredibly special about you; about me. So, look in the mirror and say I WILL SURVIVE. Then, start surviving because only the strong truly endure the invasion of heartbreak.

Now, let me be honest, there is no amazing remedy or pill or theory that will help.  The only thing that will help mend a broken heart is self love and self acceptance. For me, I call this the journey of self. I went on this journey to experience myself before someone else could ever experience me again. I encourage others to try it. It’s important to learn about yourself and watch your healing time speed up. Another thing I would encourage is to allow yourself to grieve. Often times when someone you love leaves, it feels like death. So grieve, cry; mourn. When you’re done, wipe the tears from your eyes and walk into a better version of you. 

A dear of mine encouraged me to start this journey alone. I can say that I have discovered some amazing treasures, learned things about myself that are truly impressive. I now keep a journal and I’ve learned what solitude truly is. I now understand that solitude allows for me to be alone but not lonely, to be in own mind and thought and learn to grow, to experience, and most important it allows for me to heal.

My heart it not completely mended but its restoring and yours can too.

-Lisa Elaine