Recently, a colleague, a friend said to me “Fernandez, you know what gets me about you? I have been trying to figure this out for a long time. It’s the fact that you just say things, straight, with no filter. You have no exit plan either. You say them and then you just exit the …
Category: Journey
I Cut The Virtual Connection.
I deleted his social media profile. Clap it up for me. I think, in a small way, I gave myself a mini round of applause. Over the past few years, I haven’t given much attention to the actual profile itself. It lived in the world of social media spotlights and connections. You know, not the …
Repotting, Wind, and Crickets
My cousin asked me if I sat on my porch. The afternoon air whispered softly as we repotted plants. Where I currently live, there’s a large porch that rests in the middle of the city. One the oozes southern charm. It wraps around the front of my home and is lined with trees, flowers, and …
There’s A Bit Of Turmoil In All Of Us
The mandate for my job to be shut down, for the city to close and for life to come to a screeching haunt came March 11th, 2020. Maybe I, life as I knew it, how I moved about the world came to a screeching halt also. I tried to write. Yet, my brain could not …
The Shadows of Yesterday’s Sunset
She was light. Light that sometimes screamed. Light that sometimes cursed. Light that sometimes even sat on the floor, in the corner, forbidding anyone to say a word to her. She was light, yet, her emotions marinated in the darkest of hours; weighing heavy on her heart. It took us nearly a year, inside of …
There is Clarity in Quiet Time
Sometimes in the stillness of the evening, I lay awake. I listen to the wind beat the branches into submission. They too need to be still. They too need to find refreshment in solitude. I have officially been in the house, in the house being a relative term, in the house including grocery stores, pharmacy, …
New days aren’t fresh starts, they are just new days.
He said to me “You don’t know what you just did. You saved that man.” ‘The tow truck man?’The question I thought in my head, but didn’t say aloud. I could not imagine what I had done to “save” anyone, much less the man who oddly walked up and began rambling about how I’d need …
2017 and Counting…
It’s 2017. I’ve been having quite a time conceptualizing the fact that 2016 has come and gone and my life has changed so much in a matter of countable days. For starters, I have not updated and/or written on my blog for over a year. I could say that I was too busy living, yet …
What I’ve Learned: Fear is Lie
I’m afraid. I've finally been able to profess this out loud. More afraid of a number of things than I ever thought I was in life. Like, I am afraid of things that breathe that aren’t human (of course I know that Bambi will not kill me, but why are deer so massive in size?) …
What I’ve Learned: Lead With Listening
If you lead with listening you have no choice but to respond with grace- My Motto